Many people have been shaken this year by the seemingly relentless barrage of disasters and tragedies. The constant reminder that misfortune can happen anywhere and anytime pushes some people to try even harder to control their surroundings to create a sense of security.

The reality is that no matter how hard we try to secure our situation, it can all be gone in an instant. The company where you’ve worked for 20 years can suddenly go bankrupt. The house where you planned to live your whole life can be demolished by a natural disaster. The person you love and trust the most can die suddenly.

I’m not trying to depress you! Quite the opposite. In fact, the recognition and acceptance that everything in the outer world is temporary can free you. So many people feel trapped in their life circumstances, afraid to leave because it gives them a false sense of security. Unhappy relationships, unfulfilling jobs - how much of your time or energy is wasted in the name of “security?”

The desire for security originates from fear. Do you want fear to be the director of your life? A feeling of security can only come from an inner place. It is awareness that regardless of circumstances, which are outside of your control, you can choose your state of mind, which is completely within your control.

All of the energy that was once used towards trying to maintain this illusion of security can now be placed towards your happiness. A fulfilling life is its own kind of security. No matter what happens, you will feel peace from the knowledge that you did not waste this precious life.